Yh I heard plenty of people say this to me. At first it pissed me off because it seemed as though they just did not seem to understand what I was going through, it just seemed condescending and ignorant.
But until recently I realized that they may have a point. Because sometimes I am tense and nervous for no reason, sometimes I just don’t realize that I am tensed up because with me I usually put a lot of pressure on my self to perform well and be confident, and also speak very clearly, this makes me very tensed which makes me seem a bit robotic and makes me come across as nervous.
When you’re relaxed you are able to be more effective. When I’m relaxed my speech is a million times better.
It was pointed out by my person trainer, that I am very tensed sometimes and that I just need to relax. Because he said when Im tensed I don’t perform well. I took that onboard and nowadays guess what I just relax!
I use some techniques to relax, I take deep breaths, I put my arms down and walk around the world like I don’t give a fuck 🤣. (I am still very respectful lol).
I imagine myself on a really nice beach with no rules and responsibilities. Also I started doing progressive muscle relaxation, which I think is really good, it really helps me relax. You can find a video on YouTube to learn how to do it, just type in “Progressive muscle relaxation”.
As I’m sure you all know, medidation reading and writing can help you relax. Also asmr is good for relaxing. Plenty of videos on that.
The most obvious way to relax is to just enjoy what your doing, having no worries and stuff.
I hope you guys enjoy this post, feel free to share ways on how you relax. Have a great day!